It is easy to get so excited over your new engagement that you want to share it with all of your girlfriends. And in the heat of the moment, you want ask everyone who is excited with you to stand up at the altar beside you.
Before your excitement overtakes your best judgement, there are a few things you might consider before you ask your bridesmaids:
1. Does she approve of your finance'-and this marriage? If she has not been your biggest supporter of this relationship; she might not be the best of the best buds to include on this path to the altar.
2. Is the wedding formal or informal? Tradition has it that most formal weddings have larger bridal parties whereas, a with a less formal wedding may want to only include your sister, sister-in-law and your bff. This holds true whether you are having a church wedding or even at a Barn wedding venue. You can still have this mass of girlfriends celebrating with you at your bridal shower, bachelorette party, wedding and reception. (They may be thrilled that they don't have to buy that never-to-be-worn-again dress!)
3. Will you be friends forever? Step back a moment and ask yourself if you will still be doing things together often, even if it's just chatting regularly in a year, or in 5 years? Will you really, REALLY be there for each other through the good years and the challenging days?
4. Can she afford all of the expense and responsibility that is necessary when being a bridesmaid? Giving a bridal shower, buying the dress, attending the bachelorette party, and buying the wedding gift can all add up. Some are so grateful to celebrate with you-without the obligatory purchases that go with being in the wedding party.
All that being said. DO include those closest to you and those who will remain close and stand by you, not just on that beautiful day, but for years and years to come.
And DO choose those who will make you laugh and help calm your nerves on the way to the altar-whether it's under a beautiful old oak tree or at the front of the cathedral.
Before your excitement overtakes your best judgement, there are a few things you might consider before you ask your bridesmaids:
1. Does she approve of your finance'-and this marriage? If she has not been your biggest supporter of this relationship; she might not be the best of the best buds to include on this path to the altar.
2. Is the wedding formal or informal? Tradition has it that most formal weddings have larger bridal parties whereas, a with a less formal wedding may want to only include your sister, sister-in-law and your bff. This holds true whether you are having a church wedding or even at a Barn wedding venue. You can still have this mass of girlfriends celebrating with you at your bridal shower, bachelorette party, wedding and reception. (They may be thrilled that they don't have to buy that never-to-be-worn-again dress!)
3. Will you be friends forever? Step back a moment and ask yourself if you will still be doing things together often, even if it's just chatting regularly in a year, or in 5 years? Will you really, REALLY be there for each other through the good years and the challenging days?
4. Can she afford all of the expense and responsibility that is necessary when being a bridesmaid? Giving a bridal shower, buying the dress, attending the bachelorette party, and buying the wedding gift can all add up. Some are so grateful to celebrate with you-without the obligatory purchases that go with being in the wedding party.
All that being said. DO include those closest to you and those who will remain close and stand by you, not just on that beautiful day, but for years and years to come.
And DO choose those who will make you laugh and help calm your nerves on the way to the altar-whether it's under a beautiful old oak tree or at the front of the cathedral.
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